When the Sagittarius Woman is angry, she channels her forceful energy into restlessness, irritability, sarcastic wit, and snide comments. She fears this important emotion in much the same way that she fears intimacy. She doesn't want the varied passions that accompany close contact with others.
The Sagittarius Woman may stomp her foot occasionally, shout, and even cry when she is angry. However, such displays always embarrass her; she doesn't want to appear weak or out of control. Her reaction to her anger is more intellectual than emotional. She seeks to protect and shield herself from the demands and emotional needs of her friends and intimates.
Paradoxically, while fearing one-on-one relationships, she does care about people in general and about her immediate environment in particular. Dishonesty, cruelty, betrayal, or injustice directed at groups or anonymous individuals will ignite her temper. She feels their rejection and disappointment on a global scale. She makes a great humanitarian, a true crusader. She picks up the banner and marches forward with little regard for the extreme negative reactions she is likely to encounter or create. She always has a deep commitment to improving life and conserving society.
A great challenge for the Sagittarius Woman is learning to experience and understand the complex personal problems of those closest to her. She can be a great humanitarian (like Margaret Mead, a Sagittarian who dedicated her life to solving the mysteries of the human condition), but she rarely becomes involved in the problems of her own mate.
The Sagittarius Woman quickly moves away from inner feelings of doubt and anger. She protects her social image and works very hard to project a friendly, outgoing, and liberal façade. She attaches greater importance than is necessary to her standing in society and relegates self-doubt to a less prominent place in her mind. She is motivated to display her anger only when she is personally threatened. She can be a worthy opponent in a battle over her freedom; her keen sense of survival often dictates the outcome.
She removes herself from angry confrontation more often than not. It's rare to see her remain and fight an issue to the death. She must learn to channel her energies, to be consistently analytical. There is much she can learn about the expression of anger, and if she applies it constructively, she can effect positive changes in those around her.
If anyone tries to block her efforts or control her actions, she seeks to remove the impediments with vigorous, determined drive. She becomes very intense, raises the pitch of her voice, and renders the offender helpless. Her quick "surprise attack" is most effective, but she is apt to walk away from the situation without evaluating the effectiveness of her angry display.
If unpleasant situations confront her and she finds no solution, she often becomes overwhelmed and slips into depression. Since she is not very self-analytical, she may have difficulty understanding the roots of her problems and remain confused for years. Eventually she will snap out of it, but she may never gain the valuable insight into why or how. Many Sagittarius Women find in the study of psychology or human relations a way of intellectually understanding and coping with their anger.
The Sagittarius Woman doesn't often experience hate. If she does, she often lets go of the people who aroused the hateful feelings and dismisses them permanently from her life. Her anger is quick and violent. Like a sparkler, it bursts into flame and quickly dies. It is over, forgotten almost as soon as it is spoken.
The Sagittarius Woman solves many of her problems with laughter. She is a great wisecracker, and if she interacts with someone she doesn't care for, she becomes a master of sarcasm and offhand, snide comments. She seldom comes down from her lofty position to get involved in a messy fight. Not particularly emotional, she tends to be more philosophical or intellectual.
She loves to explore the feelings and emotions of others while keeping hers securely under wraps. A Sagittarius friend and I were having dinner with a group of colleagues, and during the course of the evening she managed to coax all the "bigwigs" into divulging the details of their first sexual experience. Everyone was telling outrageous tales, trying to top each other. Not once during the conversation did she share her own experiences.
The Sagittarius Woman often uses her anger to create excitement during periods of boredom. She knows that if she can get people angry, she can spend many hours trying to work things out. She uses this ploy on the job and in many of her social contacts. She keeps on the go constantly to avoid expressing her negative emotions, and she especially seems to want to outdistance anger.
The Sagittarius Woman must watch for signs of tension in those close to her. Early in life, she often lacks the empathy to identify with another's hurt, and the experience to deal with her anger or others'. Often she cannot even communicate it. A resentful comment or critical remark from a loved one may cause deep pain. She needs to let it register, acknowledge her hurt, and then approach the issue with a relaxed and openly friendly attitude.
These issues are particularly sensitive where her lover is concerned. When the air is cleared, however, they can get down to the basic issues together. It may be as simple as the amount of time she spends on the phone, or as complex as her continued friendship with a former lover. If the present relationship is worth it, the two of them will work it out. Sagittarius must be sensitive to her lover's needs and must explain the kind of information she needs in order to behave considerately. Then, if the message is not coming through, it isn't her fault; it's a flaw in the communication system between the two of them.
The Sagittarius Woman often works to make her lifestyle match her current infatuation. As a perennial student, she is apt to adopt a transient lifestyle. Portable furniture, portable housing, portable friends, and portable values appeal to her. She doesn't like the idea of being tied down. She has a deeper feeling for the global village than the sterility of suburban life.
It isn't unusual for her to marry young and divorce soon thereafter. She's often caught up in the ideal of marriage. However, if the first man she chooses to settle down with doesn't have her spirit of freedom, doesn't allow her all the space she requires, or doesn't grow and change with her and the times, she will leave. In fact, she will probably move to another city or to another country to start all over again.
If she chooses to remain single, she often creates a family with her friends, adopting their children, their pets, their well-stocked cupboards. She can thus remain independent of family ties but enjoy a familial atmosphere. She makes an excellent friend, trustworthy and cheerful most of the time. One must develop a fairly high level of tolerance for her nervous energy, her blatant, often hurtful honesty, and her sometimes holier-than-thou attitudes to really love her deeply.
She tends to take up with people who will automatically allow her freedom of expression and who aren't overly protective and jealous. There are times in her life when a little protectiveness from friends and intimates would do her good, and she should learn the difference between caring and inhibiting. Too often she mistakes the advice of friends for an attempt to slow her down, to bring her closer to their values.
The Sagittarius Woman will try almost anything once. If she hears of homesteads still available for those interested in growing Christmas trees in the wilderness of Montana, she'll be on the phone to Washington, D.C., to apply for one. She won't, of course, be concerned with all the minutiae involved. Bureaucrats and red tape rank high on her hate list.
The Sagittarius Woman's expansive nature dictated that she reject the traditional role of women long before the idea became broadly accepted. She has a good, positive effect on the women around her. She makes being comfortably liberated seem so easy that the seeds of liberation are often sown amongst her women friends and coworkers effortlessly. Women can learn a valuable lesson from her: the scope of their travels and the richness of their lives needn't be confined within societally assigned roles. She often demonstrates that women can be wives, mothers, and productive members of society and still have experiences long afforded only to men.
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